And also “Hark, what light through yonder window breaks?” I mean, really, if anyone said that to me I’d be phoning the men with the white coats. Shakespeare isn’t the only one who wrote things that aren’t quite true to life. We authors write fiction. We embellish, we spray paint, we nail boards over the shonky bits and maybe even stomp on the fingers of the less handsome guys so they don’t inhabit our stories. And readers know this and mostly don’t mind.
Yet when it comes to writing Doms in BDSM stories even though they may be polished to the nth degree and gold-plated and given appendages a frickin elephant would be proud of, there seems to be a tendency to pine after these perfect specimens of manhood in a way that does not happen with the average romance.
I’m thinking this is partly because many women hide their secret desire for BDSM in a deep place inside their head and never ever let it out, until one day they start to read about it in novels and suddenly, wow, they realize they are not as freaky as they thought. There’s even a name for this phenomenon and it’s called sub frenzy. We humans love to label things.
And yet, a real man, Dom or not, knows he is not perfect. Those who beg to differ should be swiftly shoved off their pedestal and buried under some manure to honor their passing.
In a way, 31 Flavors was written to fill a gap in the erotic fiction field of books. This is a story based on a true story. It is not told exactly as it happens but the majority of it did happen. The woman it is based on is a friend of mine and agreed to tell her story because she wanted to show how she negotiated the minefield she confronted when she asked her husband, Nick, to tie her up and spank her. It’s not an easy thing to do. Fear governs much of what we do. It stops us dead in our tracks. Makes us feel a little sick even when the consequences can rock our world. The possibility that Sidney might alienate the one man she loved made the step she took a mammoth one in her life. I applaud her courage.
But this book is more than just sex and love. In one reviewer’s words (Angelina from this website)
“It’s serious, funny, sad, and HOT all wrapped up in a wonderful story with very relatable characters.”
But one of the funniest things, in a quirky way, to come out of this story is that some in the BDSM community may regard what Sid and Nick did as wrong, as not following the correct procedure or rules. People always like their rules – even the very fringe-of-society rule-breakers themselves. To which all Leia and I can do is scratch our heads and say, But they are in love, and happy. What can be wrong with that? Or as Angelina also aptly said,
“There is no one-size fits all when it comes to sex or BDSM for that matter. There is no checklist to guide you through the exact way to experience BDSM.”
If you read 31 Flavors, may you enjoy it, mistakes and all, and may you yourself gain some happiness. Life is what you make of it.
Say hello to Leia and Cari and
The story started with a mutual friend describing her experience in exploring BDSM with her vanilla husband and how it improved her rather dismal sex life. We were both caught up in her story because, like many women, she’d been raped as a teenager and sex had always been uncomfortable. But through the use of BDSM, and a very wonderful husband, she was able to heal from the part of the trauma that affected her sex life. That was the first part. The second reason we wanted to write it is because we’d both been active enough in BDSM social circles and groups to hear many women desperate to find that “perfect Dom.” The kind we read in fiction books. And they are scrumptious, aren’t they? But they’re not real. And we kept seeing women fall victim to abusers or who were leaving their husbands because they weren’t “Dom” enough for them. And that was really sad to me. So when presented with what we see as a real version of BDSM in an imperfect but loving and committed relationship, we jumped on it. And 31 Flavors was born.
Honestly that part was easy. Cari and I have opposite strengths. I write gooey romance with lots of humor and my strength is dialogue. Cari is freakin’ awesome at writing sex and descriptions and has experience in writing BDSM. We wanted the book to be a good balance of both. So I wrote the basic story, beginning to end, most of the comedy and romantic elements and Cari filled in the sex scenes and also helped with the humor and all that good stuff. We weren’t sure at first but as it turns out, we CAN write a book without killing each other (though living on separate continents helped). But really, there were hardly any threats of violence at all.
|Read Angeline’s Review – FIVE Stars and a Recommended Read Award|
Here’s another treat from Leia, she is offering her paranormal romance Destiny Unchained for $.99, at Smashwords. http://www.smashwords.com/
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